First Date MISTAKE Part 6 - Pizza or a Mate? (Copy)

Ordering a Pizza or a MATE? (First Date MISTAKE Part 6)

Yes, I really enjoy getting exactly what I ordered or asked for - don’t you? This expectation is reasonable when buying products and services. Finding a life partner is not in the same category at all because we are complicated, multi-layered humans with great qualities right along with all of our quirks and imperfections. Expecting the perfect human match that meets your every preference is a recipe for disappointment.

Sometimes people say, “Be careful what you ask for - you just might get it.” However, I think it is best to be “mindul” not careful. The distinction seem minor, but it is an important one. I don’t want you to be fearful of asking for what you need, because it’s more powerful and effective to be present in the moment of choice.

Almost every day I work with people, men and women who have turned to a Matchmaker, like myself for assistance in finding that love that has elluded them thus far. I love doing this work and helping people AND I also find myself wanting to coach them. It is challenging to listen and watch many singles obsess over so many “nice to have” things in a mate and completely ignore the very foundational building blocks for a loving sustainable relationship.

Ordering a pizza is easy and you can fully expect to get precisely what you want. Mistakes are much more handily resolved. Attracting the wrong mate based on a desire for so many superficial qualities is another much more painful story. Watch this short video below to find out more. If you’ve missed any of the videos in this series, I’ve provided the links below this video.

If you missed First Date Mistake #1 then be sure to go back and watch/read it. You will want to know what the very first and most crucial mistake is all about and how to avoid it. This dating blunder is a common one and often leads to an unfortunate date disaster. It’s not unusual for this mistake to torpedo your chances of getting a second date. It’s easy to avoid - you just need to know how.

If you missed First Date MISTAKE #2 then be sure to watch/read it here. I don’t want you to make this oh so avoidable mistake that I see both men and women making. It’s a common one, most likely due to being a bit nervous, but plan ahead and you won’t walk down this rabbit hole.

Be sure to catch up here if you missed First Date MISTAKE #3. You really don’t want to walk away from a first date and wonder if you made this blunder. Your date partner will feel it and wonder if there is even a point to going on a second date. These are all under 10 minutes long so watch them all and let me know what other first date mistakes you might have made or want me to help out with.

First Date Mistake Part 4 - Is Your Answer Yes or No? This video is all about finding the courage to say no when you need to do so and staying open to a yes when it just might be worth more time with this person.

What Happened to Your Appetite? First Date MISTAKE 5. Don’t make this silly and avoidable mistake. You will put yourself out of the running before you even get out of the gate.

I really do wish I had a factory in my Matchmaker Toolbox so I could help you get EVERYTHING you truly desire in a mate. But, alas we all must accept that placing a food order is much simplier. Be mindful of what you ask for! Don’t give up the truly important qualities for things that really don’t matter in the end.

Happy watching!

 May All Your Love Relationship Dreams Come True,

 Gayla Wick, Denver Love Coach and Matchmaker