What You REALLY Need to Know about First Dates
What You REALLY Need to Know about First Dates
After writing this blog for many years now, I’ve said and written and learned a ton about what it takes to have a successful first date. If the first date doesn’t go well, a second date probably isn’t going to happen.
With that in mind, I thought it might be helpful to put together a few tips about that desired and often nerve- wracking first date. Let me know what you think and if you have anything to add - a personal experience perhaps?
First Date Tips by Gayla Wick, Denver Love Coach & Matchmaker
Positive Attitude: This is an opportunity to meet someone you may fall in love with and maybe even marry or spend the rest of your life with. You’ll want to make the very best first impression which will occur in a very short amount of time, as in the first 3 minutes. There are no second chances to make a first impression. No “downer” attitudes allowed. Breathe, relax and enjoy!
Appearance: First impressions begin here. Remember, you haven’t even opened your mouth yet. Dress your best for the date venue. Google the restaurant and be sure to dress accordingly. If you’re not sure about what to wear, ask a fashionable friend or ask me. (Do NOT wear a fishing shirt to a classy restaurant! Yes, someone actually did this.) Dress as though you actually want a second date. I’m here to help you.
Personal Grooming: It may have been a while since you’ve been on a date. Let’s take a good look in the mirror and get that haircut or whiten those teeth. Nothing is more inviting than a lovely, warm smile. Even if your teeth are not perfect, they’ll look so much better if they are white (not yellow). You’ll feel better about yourself no matter what happens on the date.
Honesty: Don’t fabricate or embellish anything. Be totally honest about everything on your profile and on what you tell me – the matchmaker. Your date will find out anyway when you meet her/him and I’ll find out when they tell me about the date. Notes will go into your profile and other matchmakers will be reluctant/unwilling to set you up on another date if you violate this rule. We want dating success for our clients.
Conversation: This is a first date, not a job interview for NASA. Don’t spend any time trashing your ex or any previous relationship. Be kind and just say something like: things did not work out between you and you learned a lot and hope to bring your best self to any new relationship. End of story for now. If you are fortunate enough to end up in a relationship with this person you just met, there will be plenty of time for all the gory details. Your mission is to have a good time and be sure your date does too!
Purpose: Really take a few minutes prior to this date to think about your purpose in making yourself available. You’ve been given an opportunity to be matched with someone you probably would never meet on your own. This is a unique and special opportunity to meet someone new and you do share things in common. Take the time to have a genuine conversation and find out why you may have been matched. This is a gift – don’t squander it.
Stay safe, be kind and believe in love!
Much love and virtual hugs,
Gayla Wick
Denver Love Coach and Tawkify Matchmaker
Gayla, aka the Denver Love Coach is a Love and Dating Coach for women, author speaker and creator of the It's All About You Love Coaching Program. She loves showing single women how to attract the love relationship of their dreams!