When Dating Feels More Like Judgement Day {VIDEO}
When Dating Feels More Like Judgement Day 01 28 20
Do you wish everyone would just STOP telling you to go out there and just enjoy dating? Would you rather go to the dentist than go on another date?
I get you girl! Dating experts say it’s supposed to be fun, maybe even the best time in your life, but really? Who are they kidding?
Dating can definitely feel more like Judgement Day instead. Does he like what you’re wearing, are you too outgoing or too quiet? What should you reveal about yourself on the first date? Will there be a second date. What will you tell him on subsequent dates ,if they even happen?
No wonder it feels like judgement day. Here are 3 of the most common dating dilemmas that create that feeling and what to do instead. Watch this video and read the rest of this article to find out more.
3 Things you may be over-thinking and what to do about them:
Is it maddening to hear folks with good intentions telling you to just be yourself - be authentic and love will find you?
While this advice has merit, it doesn’t help anyone who has tried and been met with disastrous results. This is one of those things that’s easier said than done. Which genuine self are you going to show him first?
We all have different personalities - work, friends, family, lovers. Who will you be on the first, second and third dates? How much is too much to reveal before moving into a relationship?
Yes, you can learn to be your best most authentic self on a date and in a love relationship without driving yourself crazy or losing his interest. One way to begin is to focus on being at home in your body. This feels different for women and you can learn how to do it with a little practice.
I spent a year writing about my process - a step-by-step approach that really works. My book will help you with the “how” since I’m not a big fan of telling people what to do and leaving them clueless about exactly how to do it. We all just need a little guidance - an expert guide, coach or mentor who knows more about the subject than we do right now.
Do you feel like screaming or running away from home when someone says, just be patient, relax and be calm - love will find you?
While this sweet advice may be given by well-meaning folks, it’s also utterly unhelpful. Time is ticking and hopefully you’re totally tired of the waiting and hoping strategy.
If you want love, then please STOP waiting around, hoping it will just happen. You really CAN become the master of your own love destiny. Whatever you’ve been doing or not doing isn’t getting the job done.
The moment of your power is in the NOW. We no longer have the past. We don’t control or even have the ability to influence the future unless we take informed and inspired action. I can show you how to do this. It’s not hard, it’s not complicated and yes, you really can learn how to shift your current results.
If you’re dating, but never end up in a relationship or if you’ve given up on dating, then please stop doing the same things with no results. I know what really works to attract authentic love and my coaching clients do too! It’s not brain surgery or rocket science. My program isn’t talk therapy - it’s a powerful process with proven results.
Don’t accept being single as your fate. Take a baby step forward - contact me and I’ll show you how.
Have you heard, dating is just a numbers game? Just keep dating lots of people and eventually you’ll find your match?
This is bonkers advice. Sorry, to be so blunt, but really it’s just craziness to think you can keep doing the same things over and over and hope to get different results. (Einstein quote paraphrased.)
In case you’re wondering, there’s no dating in my program. What? Yes, you read that correctly. I ask clients to take a recess from dating while they work with me. Why? Because dating is not working out well for them. The same is true for women who are not dating.
No dating, until we work together to shift limiting beliefs (which takes a minute or two in my unique and super gentle process) and until we clarify just what you really desire in a partner and in a relationship. I have a unique process that’s actually fun and really works.
The more clarity you have, the easier it is to be your authentic self, with a calm and confident demeanor that’s real for you. Attraction factor number one - authenticity. This is something that can’t be faked. Faking anything in dating simply doesn’t work and it’s exhausting for you too!
Non-stop dating isn’t the answer either. Yes, following my program you’ll be in control of how, when and how often you’ll be dating. Finally you’ll know just how to find your balance and date with confidence and joy. How does that sound?
Wishing for you all the best in love!
Gayla Wick, Denver Love Coach
P.S. If you’d like to begin with my book, The Art of Attracting Authentic Love , you may purchase a copy from from Amazon . If you take just a few minutes to write a short review I’ll gift you with a 60-minute complimentary love coaching session with me! For more details: How To Get 60 Minutes Free Coaching.
Gayla, aka the Denver Love Coach is a Love and Dating Coach for women, author speaker and creator of the It's All About You Love Coaching Program. She loves showing single women how to attract the love relationship of their dreams!