7 SUREFIRE Ways to Nix a Second Date!
7 SUREFIRE Ways to Nix a Second Date!
Yes, we have talked a few times about behaviors that most certainly will nix a chance second date chances. Today I am sharing specific examples of seven behaviors that have been brought to my attention by my clients who have experienced these things first hand. I hear a ton of strange stories about dates going wrong so I just had to share these recent real life stories with you.
The things I’m about to share will hopefully underscore just how something as simple as meeting someone and sharing a meal can go so rapidly off course and end up without any hope of a second date. These are true cautionary tales of what not to do, if you want to generate enough interest to get to the second date.
Mistake 1: He was late. 10 minutes late. His sloppy explanation was that his last date had been 20 minutes late. What this had to do with him being late for this new date, I have no idea, but it did not help him in any way as she thought it was a thinly veiled reference to women in general being late. Violation of my First Date Tips Rule: Don’t be late for a date!
Mistake 2: He showed up in a pull over knit sports shirt and tennis shoes. In his defense he did wear a sports jacket. Still she was unimpressed with this “too casual” for the first date appearance. Violation of My First Date Tips Rule: Dress for the location and the occasion.
Mistake 3: He regaled her with the last several bad dates he’d had, going into great detail about the things they’d told him and just how “crazy” he thought they were. He even commented unkindly about one date’s family member who’d been diagnosed with a mental illness. Yes, this really happened. Violation of My First Date Rule: Don’t speak badly about any former relationships or dates.
Mistake 4: His manner of speaking quickly and changing topics rapidly left little room for her to engage in the conversation. Failure to understand the natural cadence of a conversation between a man and a woman is definitely not a recipe for a second date. Add this to multiple references to a second date, as if this was a foregone conclusion and you might be thinking this man is possibly tone deaf regarding male female potentially romantic interactions. Violation of My First Date Tips Rule: Be sure the conversation is a 50/50 balance between each party.
Mistake 5: He interrupted her mid-sentence to flag down a waiter to bring him something. And he seemed less than polite to the waiters throughout the course of the meal. Violation of my First Date Tips Rule: Mind your manners.
If you know someone who just might be making first date blunders be sure to watch this watch/share the video below. I’m going to share Mistakes 6 and 7 there as well. Yes, all these things really happened!
Let me know what you think. I’d love to hear your comments or questions.
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These dating faux pas will not help you attract the love of your life. A successful first date is an opportunity to create enough interest for a second date by getting to know each other. Making assumptions is a very bad idea. What do I mean? Don’t assume you are so charming and good looking that you don’t need to be polite, well mannered and show genuine interest beyond the surface level.
Everyone is interested in being treated well, thoughtfully and with equality. Most single people want what you (hopefully) desire as well - a loving, supportive relationship with an authentic person with whom we can connect physically, intellectually, emotionally and spiritually.
You can read more about how these types of intimacy work together in my book, The Art of Attracting Authentic Love.
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If you want a love relationship I truly believe you can have the perfect match for you. Until next time, stay open-minded and believe in the possibilities!
May All Your Love Relationship Dreams Come True,
Gayla Wick, Denver Love Coach and Matchmaker